Motherhood: I’m A Mean Mom. Are You?

Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent,
I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me:
I loved you enough to ask where you were going,
with whom, and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for
two hours while you cleaned your room,
a job that should have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children
must learn that their parents aren’t perfect.

I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you enough to say
when I knew you would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult battles of all.
I’m glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.

Was your Mom mean?

I know mine was.
We had the meanest mother in the whole world!
While other kids ate candy for breakfast,
we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.

When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch,
we had to eat sandwiches.

And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times.
You’d think we were convicts in a prison.

She had to know who our friends were
and what we were doing with them.

She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it,
but she had the nerve to break
the Child Labor Laws by making us work.

We had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry,

empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs.
I think she would lie awake at night
thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth,
the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
By the time we were teenagers,
she could read our minds
and had eyes in the back of her head.
Then, life was really tough!

Mother wouldn’t let our friends just honk
the horn when they drove up
They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them.

While everyone else could date
when they were 12 or 13,
we had to wait until we were 16.

Because of our mother we missed out
on lots of things other kids experienced.

None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other’s
property or ever arrested for any crime.
It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults.
We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.

I think that is what’s wrong with the world today.
It just doesn’t have enough mean moms!

*A huge thanks to my aunt for emailing this awesome poem today. It’s so true.

Moms need to be “mean” to protect their children.

It’s how we were raised so we should continue the cycle to do our part as loving parents.



  1. Love this! I’m a mean mom too !

  2. I AMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!! =) & proud of it..
    I cant say that i am MEAN… well I do have an attitude and I DONT PLAY when it comes to my children. I am a mother of 3 sons ages 13,8 & 3. I have total control of them.. I wouldnt actually code it as being mean.. its more of being a caring parent. I want to know what my children are doing, thinking or even attempting to do. I ask alot of questions and are very involved in their lives. I am strict but my children are very spoiled and all the things they have is because they EARN it. My 13 year old has a cell phone, a facebook page and an email account.. BUT I HAVE ACCESS as well and I am aware of every site he visits on the computer, game and or phone. I think people arent visualizing the point. The children learn from example as we did with ours but some people tend to ease up on their children because OUR parents were hard… but being HARD is the way to be… Its not the we mean to be MEAN… but I call it the foundation. If we teach and mold our children to head in the right direction with consequences and teach them to work around the house then they wont be who we want them to become. And in this era many parents arent working towards their childrens lives but are more focused on lives of their own.. not realizing that they may be pushing their child away to do other things not permitted or living their OWN LIVES and controlling their own situations. It comes to a point where the parent realizes when it is too late and the child who is now an adult is relying on other people to do things for them
    =).. Im just saying…

  3. I’m a mean mom too!
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  4. I have seen this before and I too am a helluva MEAN MOM!! I agree, our world needs more mean moms today.
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  5. WooHoo! If only every mom would think like us 😉 LOL

  6. I love that poem!! I’m going to share it with my mom and sisters. 🙂
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