While I was writing about my CVS visit, I heard this on the radio:
According to a study done by Oxford University,
1 in 10 couples look thru their significant other’s web browser history on the computer.
and
1 in 5 married couples ADMIT they secretly read their spouse’s emails and text messages.
Confession: I haven’t done this in a LONG time because my relationship with my husband has been pretty good lately but I have done that except one: check text messages. My spouse doesn’t know how to use that feature but if he did, then I would be guilty of all. Yes, I know it’s awful and it’s an invasion of privacy BUT when you are married, there SHOULD NOT be any secrets between the two to begin with anyway.. Sorry, but that is MY opinion. I have ZERO problems with my husband looking thru my emails and web history; none whatsoever.. I have nothing to hide so he can look anytime and anywhere. If he has a problem with me looking thru his emails and web history, then he is giving me a reason to think he is hiding something he doesn’t want me to know. Right?
Well, the reason why I did that is because since we’ve been together for a little over 17 years and we’ve been married for almost 12 years I tend to let my mind wander when it comes to infidelity. You know, boredom, body changes after having 3 kids and other things that happen in all marriages. Infidelity is the worse thing that can happen in a marriage but from what I know so far, there hasn’t been any infidelity; but you never know. I can’t have 100% trust on anyone because that is what I’ve learned ever since I was a kid. Maybe I need some therapy, who knows..LOL
Anyway, have you done this to your spouse or have they done this to you? Please leave your comments. I would love to hear about it..
Remember, these are my opinions. You may or may not agree with them. Also, my husband knows about me snooping and he didn’t like it either. Oh well! LOL
Nah. I’ve never had reason to check on my husband. I use his computer a lot (he has a PC and I have a Mac) and it never occurs to me to look at where he’s been. He gets a lot of text messages but mostly from his dumb friends calling him gay or whatever else they think is funny! 😀
I know my husband, better than he knows himself. I’m not saying nothing bad could happen, but I would certainly be surprised!
And he doesn’t check on me…lol… I don’t do anything!
I have done that also. He just started using text messaging but he uses it with me or the kids only because they are limited. I used to be obsessed about it because of jealousy but not anymore. You get to a point where you just get tired of wondering. If he’s going to cheat he’s going to do it anyway. He can open an email account in the web anywhere and you won’t know about it. All the emails he gets on his primary account I get them too because we have it set up that way because of work stuff. So I know who emails him at least on that account. Sometimes I check his other email accounts out of curiosity but like I said you get to a point where you get tired of it. I have to admit I installed a tracker program on my pc when he used to use it and found he was visiting porn sites and had been chatting with women. It got me very upset and we argued about it. I let him know that I can easily find out what the hell he is doing out there whenever I want to. That if he wouldn’t want me to do the same thing that he better stop. He stopped but I also know that he still looks at porn sites because he tells me about it. I’m ok with it as long as he doesn’t do it on my pc because that installs junk and when you have kids you don’t want pop ups like that of course. Infidelity will always be there. You just have to be prepared for when if does happens to you, you can deal with it and if you decide to break up you can take care of yourself on your own. I have been through it and it was hell because I was dependent on his salary and had 2 small children so I was left with nothing. I’m still recovering from it.
I never used to – now I have a reason to, unfortunately. He knows it and welcomes it so he can prove to me that I can trust him again. I also have to at some point let my guard down again and not check his every move and risk getting hurt again.
We’ve been together for the past 12 years I really don’t see him cheating. I don’t feel like I have to check on his emails and all that. He’s got his own Myspace page and that’s not an issue with me either. I guess I haven’t felt a reason to not trust him. You know all us women can see the signs where you think to yourself…well is he? I know I went through that a little bit when I was pregnant but I’m sure it was hormones and the fact that I was on bedrest! But I don’t feel the need to go through his phone or his emails. At least not at this time. Who knows about the future.