The Day That Came Too Early.

August 18, 1994

That is the date my father passed away.  15 years ago. I still can’t believe he’s gone.  No one knew it was coming; it was a very sad surprise. He died exactly one week after we came back from Orlando, Florida. A vacation he planned for a couple of years for my sister and I.

After his sudden death, the whole family was stunned.  We couldn’t help but wonder why he died so suddenly.  It turned out after his autopsy, he had diabetes.  No one knew.  He probably didn’t know either but I knew something was wrong when we were in Florida.  He was urinating all the time.  That was not normal for him.  Being that he wasn’t taking the needed medications to live, his organs disintegrated.  He had no chance of living.

It still seems like yesterday.

People say it’ll get better but it doesn’t. You learn how to deal with it but that’s it. The pain will always be there, no matter what. I go about my day but when I think about him, that’s it! The tears automatically come rolling down without any warning.

My father was a good man, the best father and an all-around great person. His heart was huge and people that knew him agreed.  He had many friends, family and associates.  If someone needed his help, he was always there to help out.  No matter what.

That was the kind of man he was.

I miss that about him.

I also miss him.

Enjoy the  few of many photos I have of my Papi.

*There’s more to this tribute but I couldn’t handle the memories. It’s just too much. After all these years, I still can’t believe the pain feels so fresh.  Hopefully I can continue his tribute for his birthday, September 16th.  Until then, enjoy your loved ones because life is too damn short not to.


  1. Sending you un abrazo!

  2. Sorry for your loss

  3. Oh Lisa, I can hardly even see your pic through the tears in my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you have such fond memories to look back on though! I haven’t lost a parent, a sibling or anyone closer than a dear uncle, I cannot even imagine the grief you feel on an ongoing basis. I am thankful that you have your sister and your writing as an outlet. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Lisa, I can totally relate! My dad died way too young and the pain will always be fresh and very raw. This is a wonderful tribute to him and I’m sure he is watching over you smiling! {{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

  5. Praying for comfort for you today.

  6. Sending hugs your way :-*

  7. Sorry for your loss. I’m sure he’s looking down on you from up above and very proud of what you have become.

  8. Hey nena,

    My condolences. Ironically enough, I also lost my father (August 5th),for me it’s been 19 years and to this day it doesn’t seem real that he’s really gone.

    I also wrote a blog about, I called it life’s Intricacies, to this day I try to make heads or tails of the matter knowing that there is no answer to why someone is taken from you.


  9. Very touching tribute, Lisa! I did not get a chance to show Lucy, but I did speak to her on the phone… She was very upset, and grateful to you for doing that. She hopes to see you soon, and so do I!

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