Rules for Women – My Opinion, My way of Life

A few weeks ago, I saw an episode of Jerry Springer. Yes, I know that show is psychotic, crazy and down-right dysfunctional, but I watch it occasionally.  If it wasn’t for my husband recording it daily on our DVR (he likes to laugh at them, don’t ask me why), I would never watch the show.  This particular show was a bit disturbing to me.  It was about a young Hispanic girl (18 years old) that had two kids from an ex-con that is now dating a cousin of hers.  Even though she knew that her cousin messed around with the boyfriend, she still wanted him back.  She said she loved him and since he is the father of their kids, they belong together.  The cousin didn’t want to hear that because according to her, he is now her boyfriend.  They ended up fighting on the show, of course. They punched each other; they slapped each other and fell on the floor while hitting each other.  It was crazy.

So, after seeing the show, I thought to myself; that is something I would never go through.  Especially with a family member because that is something I wouldn’t want done to me!  Plus, it is just wrong. Women should NOT do those things to teach other.  Women have to stick together, not stab each other in the back.  So I thought about rules I live by as well as the other women in my life (sisters, cousins, aunts and good friends).  I was always taught these things since I was a little girl; you don’t look at married men, you cover yourself when you are around men (don’t show your lady-bits), and you never disrespect your family or friends by flirting with their men.  Maybe this is a Hispanic thing, I don’t know but this is how I was raised.  Anyway, here are those rules:

Rule #1: Never date your family member’s or friend’s ex-boyfriend/ex-husband.  That is such a big no-no.  Why would you do that anyway?  This also goes along with NEVER DATE your friend’s current boyfriend or husband.  Get your own man!  There’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Rule # 2: If the boyfriend/ex-boyfriend flirts with you, it’s your job to let them know what they are doing is completely wrong.  Don’t let it linger on because it can and will get worse.  You should definitely tell your friend.  You don’t want them in the dark.  Would you want to be in the dark?  If the female is oblivious to what you have told her, make sure you tell the man to back off! Some women are blind to those things but it doesn’t mean you have the right to disrespect them behind their backs by flirting with them!  You also don’t want them finding out from someone else because that would be very upsetting for the woman and you could lose their trust and friendship as well.

Rule #3: Never, ever talk about sex without the mate involved in the conversation. That is just plain disrespectful and wrong.  I once knew a girl that did this EXACT thing.  What a loser!  Moving on…..

Rule #4: If you don’t or won’t do it in front of your boyfriend, then it’s definitely wrong to do it behind their backs.

Rule #5: Don’t wear clothes where you are almost naked when you are around men, especially when you are around married men.  That is disrespectful.  It also shows other people that you don’t have respect for yourself either.

Rule #6: If for some strange reason, you feel like flirting back (why would you anyway?); put yourself in their shoes.  Would you want that done to you behind your back?  There is a big possibility it will happen to you.  Remember, “What goes around, comes around!”  Always think about the other person’s feelings.  You never want to take your friendship for granted either.  If you see something wrong, find out the facts first, and then figure out your plan on how to tell your family member or friend.  You don’t want to see them hurt, do you?

So, do you agree or disagree with my rules?  Do you have any rules you live by?  Comment below and let me know.


  1. I think you are exactly right, and thanks for standing up for what is right. It’s horrible that such crap is exalted on television. I guess that’s why I try to avoid it! I wish more moms would raise their girls with those rules you spelled out. It’s just like Jesus said, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” And there’s what Paul said, “God is not mocked. What you sow,, you will also reap.”

    So, right on, girl! 😀

  2. NewYorkChica says:

    Hey, thanks for your comment.  You are so right.  So many girls nowadays are growing up like animals.  They have no morals and no resepct for themselves or others.  Moms have to do the right thing with their girls because girls are the future too..

    Thanks again!

  3. I totally agree with your rules. Actually when I was a teenager my cousin stole my “boyfriend”. Of course I put it in quotes because at 15 it’s not that serious anyway. But she was a hoochie! I always felt like you had to respect yourself and never fight over a guy. That makes you look so cheap and desperate. And there is so many other fish in the sea! I always said I rather be the popular one growing up because I was hard to get than the popular one because I was so easy.

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